As parents, you need endurance, flexibility, and inner strength to recover when things don’t go well. All of this can reduce parents’ ability to cope effectively with the day-to-day stresses of raising children.
It is important to recognize yourself and push yourself in four ways:
- As a person or as a family
- In school or training
- In self-care
- In the wider community
Parents must develop resilience with their children on a daily basis, teaching self-care and maintaining a daily routine, emphasizing the positive, building a strong bond between parents and children, reading together, promoting social skills, maintaining a daily routine, promoting self-esteem, and practicing reflection.
What is resilience
Resilience depends on how we perceive our lives. So maybe we get tense seeing our daughter on stage for the first time; anxious and worried, we began to reflect. If we recognize that we cannot protect our children from every pain, but have done our best, the experience changes: “I am almost as stressed as she is! I hope it goes well, but I’m here if it doesn’t.”
Perception itself is malleable. In fact, this idea is like an approach to military resistance training for soldiers. Participants explore mind traps, habitual distortions that undermine emotional well-being. These difficulties can represent thoughts like asking for help is admitting failure. They include in the catastrophe the worst possible outcome of each situation or, alternatively, they minimize and ignore what is overwhelming for them.
An internal critic who keeps saying bad things to you can continually let us know that we are not good enough to handle it. All these distortions represent filters that distort perspective and take us away from resistance.
Uncertainty and change of perspective
Uncertainty and change are inevitable in life, and it is even more so for parents. Instinct leads us to care and protect because we care more than anything for our families.